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The Motivational Quotes on My Wall

In preparation for 2009, I’ve been reading a lot about goals and time management and self-help and whatever I could get my hands on. I’ve distilled it for myself into three “Motivational Quotes” that I hope will help me get my act together next year. (That’s tomorrow — yipes!) And, surprisingly, none of them are from my self-help reading! But they sum up stuff for me . . .

  1. Plant Your Seeds. My fellow Hippie-wannabes might giggle at this one — in the 60s, they were talking about a totally different type of seed — but for me it sums up some of the stuff I’ve been reading. If a farmer planted seeds expecting them to produce within 24 hours, he’d get laughed out of the Grange hall, right? Yet in the world of the Net, people expect their Virtual Real Estate to instantly produce all the time. Really, all you can do is plant your seeds — your blog posts, forum and other blog comments, your twitters and conversations on FriendFeed and FaceBook or wherever you hang out. You can’t tug on the plant to make it grow faster; all you can do is keep planting. You can’t harvest unless you plant first. So keep planting.
  2. Be Stronger Than You Were Yesterday. This quote is actually from Godzilla: Final Wars:
    “Kozama! No need to feel proud.”
    “But I won the contest, sir!”
    “The point is not to win. The point is to be stronger than you were yesterday.”
    I may not feel like exercising today, but that will leave me weaker tomorrow; I may not want to clean, but it leaves a bigger mess for later. Every step towards my ideal life makes me more able to live it; just like planting seeds in my virtual real estate. The goal for both of these is to take little daily cumulative actions. Trying for the Big Deal all at once, for me, is a sure road to procrastination. And I can’t afford to do that anymore.
  3. Keep Moving Forward. This one’s from the Disney film Meet the Robinsons, and is apparently taken from something said by Walt himself. You’d think that the last two sayings about small daily actions would be enough, but for someone prone to depression and occasionally obsessed with playing games like, “I Shoulda Known When” and “What the Frell Was I Thinking?,” this particular point needs to be emphasized. Looking back just shows your footsteps, where you came from; it is NOT going to help you get where you’re going. As any farmer can tell you, throwing the seeds just any old where is not the way to farm; any body builder or martial artist would say that just doing any old exercises is not going to get you the physical attributes you want. You need a plan; you need to be able to point to the horizon and say, “I want to get over there, and I have the map to do it.” I’m great with plans; I know just where I want to get. It’s actually getting there that I have issues with. So I want to remind myself to KEEP MOVING, and to MOVE FORWARD not backward.

So there they are, the three “motivational quotes” that are on my whiteboard at the moment. Only I would pick quotes from hippies, Godzilla and Disney to make a point for myself! But hey, it’s what works for me. What works for you? I’d love to hear what you use to keep yourself going. You can share by leaving your favorites in the Comments! And have a happy, prosperous and forward-moving New Year! 8-)

Goal Notes 2009

I’ve been writing some notes for myself about goals for the next year — and what better place to store them than here? At least I’ll know where they are in three months!

Goals: By 12/25/09, I will be:

  1. Making $2000/month or more online.
  2. Weighing 180 pounds or less.
  3. Leading/Part of the vibrant communities I’ve created on PD and HOOLD.
  4. Keeping my home clean & presentable, using rituals/routines created for that purpose.
  5. Having a social life, online and IRL.

[Make the money needed to be comfortable, while taking care of myself and losing the spare tire; finding my ‘tribe,’ my ‘Perfect Customers,’ and giving them a place to interact and help each other (while helping me, too, as I help them); using my thing for ‘ritual’ and routine to take care of neglected household stuff; and, for Pete’s Sake, interacting with real people, both online and face to face!]


{Yesterday afternoon @chrisbrogan tweeted, “Every Knight serves a King, but do all knights seek to be kings themselves?” This led me to scribble, “no, a knight serves (stewards) their fiefdom — more productivity for all!” And that led to this:}

If I’m a Knight, then my fiefdom is my internet real estate. PD is my marketplace and library, meeting hall and theater — my main street. HOOLD is my church, my forum, my place to inspire and share from all faiths. LJFW is my ‘living room,’ tourney-style; where I can tell my stories and share my personal weirdness. LJ is for things I wanna share with a larger audience [for now]; R&R is a little corner where I can get on my soapbox and rant without ruining my other ‘brands.’

A Knight is in service to his fiefdom — his people. He leads, but also serves. It is his duty to stay strong and encourage growth; it is his honor to be helpful, and his privilege to bring his people what he can find that’s encouraging. The better you are at reaching the people, at ‘check moves’ and ‘taking care of business,’ the more members of your community that you’ll find, and the greater the reward.

{“Tourney-style:” when we went to SCA tourneys on a regular basis, we had a tent (our “bedroom”) and a dining fly (our “living room”). People would stop by, we’d talk and laugh and ‘hold court’ and accept drinks and give out drinks and offer aspirin and play tablero and — well, you get the idea. We were pretty popular then, and could always get a good laugh with our little routines and silly stories. I want LJFW to feel like that. ‘Check moves’ and ‘taking care of business’ are from the Wombat Selling book. I got it online for free, and so can you.}


{A little later, another rant:}

When it comes to the brand “LJF Wolffe,” I am CEO, captain of the ship, Knight of the Keep. As such, it’s my job to plan and strategise the best way to make money and maximise my virtual real estate. I need to balance my dreams, my knowledge and my “voice of treason;” my angel and my ego (or negative voices from my past). I need to set the stage.

I am also the only employee; I am the only one to execute the plan, and it all falls apart if I sluff off. The best plan in the world won’t work if it’s not worked. That work must be done no matter what or we don’t make any money. It’s that simple. The bank does not take health excuses.

So I not only need to plan, but to actually DO what I plan. How do you force yourself through the headaches and the aches and the inability to think? There seems to be a wall between me and the keyboard — how do I smash it?

{And that’s what I’ve got so far. Suggestion and pointers to other good thoughts always welcome . . . 8-)}

A Classic Killer Quote

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy,
the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative and creation,
there is one elementary truth the ignorance
of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
that the moment one definitely commits oneself,
then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur
to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents,
meetings and material assistance which no man
could have dreamed would have come his way.
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
Begin it now.

– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Why Fail? — and Optimist Creed


Ambika Wauters writes, “All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” Ask yourself, “How do I protect and defend myself with continual failure? What am I gaining by failing? Is it sympathy? But do I want sympathy or admiration? Is it safety from disappointment? But do I want the safety of a canary in a cage or the adventures of an eagle soaring to a mountain top? Is it protection from hard work? But if I want to spend my days being as comfortable as a cat sleeping in front of a fireplace, I’ll never be a winner. Yet, if I work hard, I’ll end up being very comfortable.”



Promise Yourself:
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.


These quotes are from a newsletter I’ve been getting for years, written by Chuck Gallozzi for www.personal-development.com. I’ve been sitting on the fence for so long that I’ve forgotten what it’s like to run; motivational quotes like these are a good occasional kick in the pants for me.

I’m Drownding in Info — How am I Supposed to Get Any Work Done?!?

So I ordered Stomping the Search Engines 2, which was (and will be) valuable info for way cheaper than usual; with STSE2 I got all of the bonuses, many of which are on the same 30-day trial as the magazine (and the disc — I was weak). So now I have audio and video lessons coming out my ears, and membership sites I need to go and take thorough looks at, to see how much I can learn and if I want to pay the fees after the trial is over. Many of the “free bonuses” came up on the thank you pages for opting into their lists, so I have to watch the videos NOW or lose them when I close the page. My browser gets slower and slower as these things build up (and better as I watch them — I’ve learned not to click on the email link until I know I’m ready to deal with whatever comes up. In other words — NO CLICKING DURING MY SOAP! Yes, I still watch the stupid soap. Now I just miss half of it because I’m doing other things while I watch it.)

[Soapbox: I’m really becoming convinced of something I’ve been reading from the time management gurus: multitasking is overrated, it reduces your effectiveness instead of enhancing it, and eventually it will make you stupid. Someone found a study proving that multitaskers have more attention and thinking problems than stoners. Really. And I’m beginning to understand how; just quiz me on the details of a movie I claim to have watched, all the while with my face buried in my laptop. I won’t know much more about it than if I had seen it a week ago. I keep looking up just after my favorite parts. It’s annoying. Anyway . . .]

So I have a month’s worth of info from STSE2, and at least a month’s worth of info from the bonuses (and only a month to get at it), and the streams I have set up in Reader and FriendFeed and FaceBook (which eats time all by itself) which can take all day to parse. So that’s three day’s worth of work in any given day.

And When during this time am I supposed to get any work done on my site???

For the past two days, ever since my STSE2 package arrived, I’ve been listening and watching stuff almost continuously. (<rant>Whatever happened to PDFs? Why does EVERYTHING have to be audio or video? Why do I have to listen to or watch you stutter, ramble on and get off point for an hour when I could read the transcript in 15 minutes?? I know it’s the latest greatest thing, but for Pete’s Sake, people! Different people learn in different ways — why do I have to be forced to deal with a format that is suboptimal for me just because it’s easier for you? Put some time into it, Dude! </rant>) I haven’t done a thing to PD — no blog posts, and no Pimp My Site Pages, as I wanted to have done by the weekend so I could shop for a WP guru.

I know it’s my fault: I have no discipline, and do tend to deal with whatever’s in front of me. If I’d lived in a perfect world, I would have had thirty days of uninterrupted time after the 30 Day Challenge to get my Web Site the way I wanted it, to get the traffic flowing and settle into a routine before I got swamped with new learnings. I’d have been better able to apply them. But NO — the rotten marketers have to ride the 30DC wave until every last drop of opportunistic cash is squeezed from every wallet. I don’t blame them for it; I just wish I could have chosen the time to receive it.

So I’m griping — and I’m typing this post at 1 in the morning because it was running through my head and I couldn’t sleep and I figured if I wanted to type it out, now is better than later — ’cause when am I going to have time later? I have got to manage myself better. I know that, and know how; it just seems impossible. It’s not really. Oh, look — new Tweets! Now, cut that out . . .