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Camping and Thinking, Courtesy of @fabeku

We went camping! Our friend and her two-year-old daughter took us camping at Beverly Beach, south of Depoe Bay on the Oregon coast. (I spent three days with a 2-year-old, and she still likes me. My mind is blown.) Wonderful campground. I spent solstice morning on the beach, doing what I always do on the beach — collecting rocks! Just the ones that say something to me, by being unusual or pretty or feeling really good in my hand. I’ve got a bag with about two pounds of rocks (mainly pebbles) to go through. It’ll be fun.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about my life in general, in part thanks to @fabeku and his wonderful blog posts. He has one about how you’re Not Your Story, because that story has nothing to do with reality and was created in part by others; he has another about how you’re Not Their Story either, since their story of you is more about their headspace than yours. Then I thought, “Wait a minute. If I’m not My Story (which I’m not; I’ve been tracking down the pieces, and all of them were fed to me by others), and I’m not Their Story, then I can’t really know what I’m capable of! Every ‘I’m Not’ in my head is INVALID! I have no idea how far I can go!” This is liberating and intimidating at the same time. It means the scary proposition of getting my tucchus out of this chair and actually DOING something. Eek. It means actually setting fingers to keyboard and writing as often as I’m supposed to. Yikes. And it means no more excuses — “But I <insert story here>” is no longer an option.

And things are popping out of my online world to poke at me about it, too. “All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. ” — David J. Schartz, The Magic of Thinking Big. “Add value every day.” — Brian Tracy, which brings up “Rust Never Sleeps!” from Flashback. As soon as the back half of my body (from my knees to my shoulders) stops hurting, I’m going to have to do something about that.

Today, however, is a Rest and Catch-up Day, after three days away from the computer having a Real Life. Which was wonderful. So that’s a Good Thing, too. 8-)

BONUS SECRET: The people in the camp spot next to us came over and offered us half a pineapple upside down cake that they couldn’t finish. It was one of the top 10 most wonderful things I’ve ever eaten, which from me is saying quite a bit. It was so good the friend who took us camping went over and asked about the recipe. The lady who cooked it said it was the best one she had ever made, and that the big difference was that she found a PINEAPPLE cake (not a yellow cake) mix in the store and followed the directions on the box. So the next time you need to knock somebody’s socks off through their taste buds, find yourself a box of pineapple cake mix and go to it! MiLady wants to try it in the crockpot, and I can’t wait to play taste tester. It’s one of my favorite jobs! 8-)

Resistance . . . I Haz It. HELP!!

Before the beginning of the year I wrote some goals for myself: making money online, losing weight, keeping up with Real Life, that type of thing. I was sincere when I wrote them, and still mean to carry them out; but here it is the start of the Second Quarter of the year and I’m still over 200 lbs., my house is still a mess, and I can’t seem to get myself to post anywhere on a regular basis. I spend my days keeping up with the social media I’ve subscribed to, reading my RSS feeds and tweets (and swearing when they come in 6 at a time when I’m trying to get something done — like right now) and keeping up with things to the point that I don’t get anything else done. A great excuse, ain’t it? No it’s not. I hate it. Yet I keep doing it. Ick. (I wrote a blog post about it over on LiveJournal.)

I ran into a book a while back with the title What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, and got to read the first few dozen pages in Google Books. It talked about Resistance, and how your own brain can stop you from making any progress. Of course, the sample at Google stopped before offering any concrete suggestions. I’d go out and buy the thing, if I had any money. Which I don’t because I’ve been frittering. Boo.

I’ve never been any good at the “Sheer Willpower Method” — force yourself to do it, Gorramit! — and apparently trusting myself is SO not working. So I would love any suggestions my wonderful readers might have. Please leave me a comment (let me know this gets read!), or add suggestions to Friendfeed for this post. Please? I need all the help I can get! 8-)

The Motivational Quotes on My Wall

In preparation for 2009, I’ve been reading a lot about goals and time management and self-help and whatever I could get my hands on. I’ve distilled it for myself into three “Motivational Quotes” that I hope will help me get my act together next year. (That’s tomorrow — yipes!) And, surprisingly, none of them are from my self-help reading! But they sum up stuff for me . . .

  1. Plant Your Seeds. My fellow Hippie-wannabes might giggle at this one — in the 60s, they were talking about a totally different type of seed — but for me it sums up some of the stuff I’ve been reading. If a farmer planted seeds expecting them to produce within 24 hours, he’d get laughed out of the Grange hall, right? Yet in the world of the Net, people expect their Virtual Real Estate to instantly produce all the time. Really, all you can do is plant your seeds — your blog posts, forum and other blog comments, your twitters and conversations on FriendFeed and FaceBook or wherever you hang out. You can’t tug on the plant to make it grow faster; all you can do is keep planting. You can’t harvest unless you plant first. So keep planting.
  2. Be Stronger Than You Were Yesterday. This quote is actually from Godzilla: Final Wars:
    “Kozama! No need to feel proud.”
    “But I won the contest, sir!”
    “The point is not to win. The point is to be stronger than you were yesterday.”
    I may not feel like exercising today, but that will leave me weaker tomorrow; I may not want to clean, but it leaves a bigger mess for later. Every step towards my ideal life makes me more able to live it; just like planting seeds in my virtual real estate. The goal for both of these is to take little daily cumulative actions. Trying for the Big Deal all at once, for me, is a sure road to procrastination. And I can’t afford to do that anymore.
  3. Keep Moving Forward. This one’s from the Disney film Meet the Robinsons, and is apparently taken from something said by Walt himself. You’d think that the last two sayings about small daily actions would be enough, but for someone prone to depression and occasionally obsessed with playing games like, “I Shoulda Known When” and “What the Frell Was I Thinking?,” this particular point needs to be emphasized. Looking back just shows your footsteps, where you came from; it is NOT going to help you get where you’re going. As any farmer can tell you, throwing the seeds just any old where is not the way to farm; any body builder or martial artist would say that just doing any old exercises is not going to get you the physical attributes you want. You need a plan; you need to be able to point to the horizon and say, “I want to get over there, and I have the map to do it.” I’m great with plans; I know just where I want to get. It’s actually getting there that I have issues with. So I want to remind myself to KEEP MOVING, and to MOVE FORWARD not backward.

So there they are, the three “motivational quotes” that are on my whiteboard at the moment. Only I would pick quotes from hippies, Godzilla and Disney to make a point for myself! But hey, it’s what works for me. What works for you? I’d love to hear what you use to keep yourself going. You can share by leaving your favorites in the Comments! And have a happy, prosperous and forward-moving New Year! 8-)

Goal Notes 2009

I’ve been writing some notes for myself about goals for the next year — and what better place to store them than here? At least I’ll know where they are in three months!

Goals: By 12/25/09, I will be:

  1. Making $2000/month or more online.
  2. Weighing 180 pounds or less.
  3. Leading/Part of the vibrant communities I’ve created on PD and HOOLD.
  4. Keeping my home clean & presentable, using rituals/routines created for that purpose.
  5. Having a social life, online and IRL.

[Make the money needed to be comfortable, while taking care of myself and losing the spare tire; finding my ‘tribe,’ my ‘Perfect Customers,’ and giving them a place to interact and help each other (while helping me, too, as I help them); using my thing for ‘ritual’ and routine to take care of neglected household stuff; and, for Pete’s Sake, interacting with real people, both online and face to face!]

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{Yesterday afternoon @chrisbrogan tweeted, “Every Knight serves a King, but do all knights seek to be kings themselves?” This led me to scribble, “no, a knight serves (stewards) their fiefdom — more productivity for all!” And that led to this:}

If I’m a Knight, then my fiefdom is my internet real estate. PD is my marketplace and library, meeting hall and theater — my main street. HOOLD is my church, my forum, my place to inspire and share from all faiths. LJFW is my ‘living room,’ tourney-style; where I can tell my stories and share my personal weirdness. LJ is for things I wanna share with a larger audience [for now]; R&R is a little corner where I can get on my soapbox and rant without ruining my other ‘brands.’

A Knight is in service to his fiefdom — his people. He leads, but also serves. It is his duty to stay strong and encourage growth; it is his honor to be helpful, and his privilege to bring his people what he can find that’s encouraging. The better you are at reaching the people, at ‘check moves’ and ‘taking care of business,’ the more members of your community that you’ll find, and the greater the reward.

{“Tourney-style:” when we went to SCA tourneys on a regular basis, we had a tent (our “bedroom”) and a dining fly (our “living room”). People would stop by, we’d talk and laugh and ‘hold court’ and accept drinks and give out drinks and offer aspirin and play tablero and — well, you get the idea. We were pretty popular then, and could always get a good laugh with our little routines and silly stories. I want LJFW to feel like that. ‘Check moves’ and ‘taking care of business’ are from the Wombat Selling book. I got it online for free, and so can you.}

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{A little later, another rant:}

When it comes to the brand “LJF Wolffe,” I am CEO, captain of the ship, Knight of the Keep. As such, it’s my job to plan and strategise the best way to make money and maximise my virtual real estate. I need to balance my dreams, my knowledge and my “voice of treason;” my angel and my ego (or negative voices from my past). I need to set the stage.

I am also the only employee; I am the only one to execute the plan, and it all falls apart if I sluff off. The best plan in the world won’t work if it’s not worked. That work must be done no matter what or we don’t make any money. It’s that simple. The bank does not take health excuses.

So I not only need to plan, but to actually DO what I plan. How do you force yourself through the headaches and the aches and the inability to think? There seems to be a wall between me and the keyboard — how do I smash it?

{And that’s what I’ve got so far. Suggestion and pointers to other good thoughts always welcome . . . 8-)}

Don’t Quit!

Don’t Quit (Poem)
Source Unknown

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit –
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a fellow turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup;
And he learned too late
when the night came down
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar,
So stick to the light when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

A Classic Killer Quote

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy,
the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative and creation,
there is one elementary truth the ignorance
of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
that the moment one definitely commits oneself,
then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur
to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents,
meetings and material assistance which no man
could have dreamed would have come his way.
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
Begin it now.

– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Why Fail? — and Optimist Creed

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Ambika Wauters writes, “All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” Ask yourself, “How do I protect and defend myself with continual failure? What am I gaining by failing? Is it sympathy? But do I want sympathy or admiration? Is it safety from disappointment? But do I want the safety of a canary in a cage or the adventures of an eagle soaring to a mountain top? Is it protection from hard work? But if I want to spend my days being as comfortable as a cat sleeping in front of a fireplace, I’ll never be a winner. Yet, if I work hard, I’ll end up being very comfortable.”

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THE OPTIMIST CREED

Promise Yourself:
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

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These quotes are from a newsletter I’ve been getting for years, written by Chuck Gallozzi for www.personal-development.com. I’ve been sitting on the fence for so long that I’ve forgotten what it’s like to run; motivational quotes like these are a good occasional kick in the pants for me.